Emotional Numbing in Modern Dating: Is Dating Fatigue a Subclinical Trauma Response?

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@article{1714330,
      author = {Ansh Bharara, Tanya Gulati},
      title = {Emotional Numbing in Modern Dating: Is Dating Fatigue a Subclinical Trauma Response?},
      journal = {Iconic Research And Engineering Journals},
      year = {2026},
      volume = {9},
      number = {8},
      pages = {817-826},
      issn = {2456-8880},
      url = {https://www.irejournals.com/formatedpaper/1714330.pdf},
      abstract = {The dating practices of today's society rapidly change due to digital platforms which create dating fatigue that brings about emotional exhaustion and relationship disengagement and decreased interest in dating. This review investigates whether emotional numbing which people experience during dating fatigue qualifies as a subclinical response that originates from trauma or as a temporary change in attitude or a psychiatric disorder. The paper uses literature from trauma psychology combined with emotion regulation research and attachment theory, learned helplessness and chronic stress studies to show how repeated relational stressors lead to emotional blunting, avoidance behavior and motivational withdrawal. The research shows that dating fatigue represents a process through which people control their emotions because they have experienced ongoing relationship difficulties. The clinical implications of framing dating fatigue through a trauma-informed model that avoids creating mental health disorders extend to psychoeducation and upcoming research measurements of relationship intimacy and emotional health in online dating environments.},
      keywords = {Dating Fatigue, Emotional Numbing, Subclinical Trauma, Avoidance, Learned Helplessness, Modern Dating},
      month = {February},
      doi = {https://doi.org/10.64388/IREV9I8-1714330}
  }